It might be good to read “The Four Agreements “ by Ruiz. Essentially we often assume others are judging us when often they are not or they judge everyone as less then. Last point 5 out 100 bad guys can be aggressively meeting 95 out of 100 gals and those 5 color all men. Of course on this later point some of us (men and women) early on, see what we want to see so detecting the bad can be delayed. So yes some guys are bad, some are ok, some are good.